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Portrait: Romina Wendell

Romina Wendell
Age 43 • Cortes Island, BC
Music composer, web developer, land steward

rominaWhen my partner and I were travelling in Jamaica, we camped for a month at Mr. Buck’s place in the ghettos of Ocho Rios. The ghettos were this strange sort of post-apocalyptic jungle where the hustlers lived, among abandoned banana groves and overgrown cars. Mr. Buck was sort of a primitive permaculturalist. He liked his white rum and his weed, raised fish in little ponds, and grew green bananas to offer his many guests. Continue reading


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Sex makes babies

Happy Healthy Vegan’s candid discussion of why she doesn’t have kids. Go ahead, try to guess Anji’s age (she does not dye her hair) … 😉


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Portrait: Megan Adam

meganMegan Adam
Age 41 Vancouver, BC
Communications professional, musician, handcrafter, social activist 

Not long after I got together with my partner Brian, he went out and booked himself an appointment for a vasectomy. I still had some feelings about no longer having the “choice” about children. I wasn’t feeling a strong urge to have kids at the time, and even though we had talked about it before (and I had encouraged him to get the snip), I wasn’t sure.

So as a way to buffer that, we agreed to bank some of his sperm, ‘just in case.’ We joked about offering his goods to some lesbian women we knew who wanted to conceive—hey, it’s great sperm! He’s smart, good looking… But that didn’t happen. So then just last year, we got this letter from the fertility clinic, saying they were shutting down. And did we want to have the sperm sent to another clinic. We kind of looked at each other and said…nah, flush it. It’s done.

For me, the biological clock was a temporary insanity, like having an alien take over my body and mind. At the time it felt so strong and so permanent, like it would last forever. But it didn’t. It was agonizing at the time. But it passed and I’m certainly not feeling anything like the regret that some people told me I would have.

<excerpted from Megan’s story from One in Five Portraits>

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by | May 8, 2015 · 8:56 pm